I was wary of compliments, especially from friends. I would blush, mumble a thank you and quickly get far away from the person. Personally, I preferred long-distance compliments, because I found it a lot easier to let the voice break over the phone and pretend not to have heard it right.
Until I heard one of them last year…
After that, whenever I am given a compliment, I smile and note it down mentally. I’ve learnt to take it with a sack full of salt. Now I just blow them away. If they still float around, I observe for sometime longer and invariably it has always gone back as chips on its owners’ shoulders.
For instance, I have one friend who drools eloquent on what I serve her. Later she advices me on how easy it is go beyond the basic three-course meal.
There are a couple of them who cannot stop exclaiming about the décor of my home and how neatly I maintain my house. One of them later said, I need to cleanse it for proper chi. “I sense unwanted elements”.
One of them said she ‘envies’ my slender frame. Later, she said I lack core strength. At this age, building core strength is more important than being thin…
Our thoughts are, indeed, powerful. I shouldn’t have been wary of them to begin with, I guess.
Here’s the first instance that shook my antennas last year… http://bit.ly/Wu8phy