Stop fooling yourself

Stop fooling yourself


January 12, 2016
When people at my workplace learnt I joined a Toastmaster’s club, one of my colleagues muttered, “Why do journalists need to learn to speak?”
 

That was too loaded a remark. If I had let it bog me down then, I would have been ashamed of myself. Nor would I have had the courage to write this today.

After almost 4 years with the awesome organisation, where I discovered several hidden traits in me, I can say with conviction that listening to your own inner voice is the only way to understand your real self.

 
As to why journalists need to speak…it needs a separate space. Now, suffice to say – a good speaker is different from an efficient reporter or fantastic conversationalist or rutheless debater, panelist, critic… et al. And Toastmastering is not only about communicating. It’s leadership, too. Again for the ignorant, a good leader is not only who takes pride in teams’ achievements or specializes in ordering about and delegating or keeping the pack in line… et al.
There’s none to inspire and encourage you all your life! 
We adults are ridiculously hopeless kids at times. When we feel a lack in executing our duties in all its efficiency or living life to its fullest, we decide that we need help in sprucing ourselves up.
 
We approach life coaches, join self-development programmes or simply seek advice and pour out our hearts to anyone willing to lend their ears. But when we are offered help or shown the path, we hesitate, procrastinate, alter, amend or become too busy at once.
 
The contest season in Toastmaster’s has begun. It’s amazing an opportunity for anyone wanting to face an audience, receive feedback and more importantly test your own self. And yet, the enthusiasm with which people join the programme vanishes as the contest date nears.
 
They need to be prodded, pushed, cajoled, consoled, assured… as if only their action would save planet earth, so please stand up and save mankind from doom!!
 
If you believe you need to develop yourself and you have taken that first step, you might as well go the whole yard.
 
There’s none to inspire you all your life. There’s none to encourage you at all times. Even kids are spoon-fed only for the first few years. So stop expecting seniors and mentors to hold you by your pinkie and lead you every time you pull up a puppy face.
 
If you have decided to develop yourself. You bloody well do all that it takes for you to develop yourself. It’s kiddish and absolute waste of your time to procrastinate when an opportunity is offered to you. As Richard Branson says, ‘If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!’
 
Isn’t that why you paid the fee and vouched your time? Or if you thought only paying the fee will get you the desired result, then you should be in primary school sucking lollipops.
 
Oh, yes. There will be emergencies and personal reasons. The former I totally understand. But when an emergency plays out at regular intervals, don’t complain if it’s alleged to be orchestrated.
 
Stop fooling yourself!
Nisha Sanjeev

27 Comments

  • Vidya Sury
    January 12, 2016

    I've heard that the Toastmasters do a fantastic job of motivating and encouraging. My nephew joined them and came out feeling wonderful. Yes, in fact, all of us need to learn to speak! 🙂 Loved your post, Nisha!

  • Rajlakshmi
    January 12, 2016

    I love these activities, we used to have similar concept in my previous company too. It's later on did I realise how important they have been in shaping my personality.

  • Ls
    January 12, 2016

    I had the opportunity to join Toastmasters at my previous company. Now I regret not joining it.

  • Parul
    January 12, 2016

    Such an important lesson for all of us Nisha. I loved how you wrote the post. I little authority and lot of inspiring words.
    I loved it when you said – If you believe you need to develop yourself and you have taken that first step, you might as well go the whole yard. I related to my driving lessons and how I need to fight my fear to go the whole yard.

  • VIPINGEORGES
    January 12, 2016

    Well said!You can fool the whole world but not your conscience,the sooner you realize the earliest you reach your self discovery…..journey of excellence…even journalists needs to speak their mind????

  • Eli Ert
    January 12, 2016

    Listening to your inner voice: YES!! And then act on it- to whatever is right for you, no mater what opinion others might have about your choice. Thats what I believe in. Sounds like a fun programme- enjoy it and best of luck Nisha:-)

  • Mohan Kamath
    January 12, 2016

    Ability to express, write, speak is a wonderful tool given to mankind by nature. You are making effective use of this tool. Yes. we can not expect perpetual spoon-feeding. If we are regularly hiding behind the excuses called emergencies, we are fooling ourselves.

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 13, 2016

    Thanks Vidya.. TM is a good podium

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 13, 2016

    Yes. One will chnage… I did!

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 13, 2016

    Tell me Parul… In fact driving licence is something I have yet nor garnered courage for 🙂

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 13, 2016

    Thank you

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 13, 2016

    Thanks Eli

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 13, 2016

    Thanks Mohan.. glad you agree!

  • Soumya
    January 13, 2016

    Toastmasters sound like an awesome concept to help and motivate others. Stage fear is quite a thing, but after a few sessions you get over it. But I still feel a tingling session in my stomach whenever I get on stage.

    But I love your post so much. We adults need to stop fooling ourselves and buck up and build ourselves. Self development is the most important thing for a person. No excuses should come in between that. I do agree with you on the fact that some people do orchestrate emergencies just to get out of a few things. Shame on them.

  • VP Menon
    January 13, 2016

    Good one Nisha. Going to share it with my Toastmaster friends 🙂

  • David Hughes
    January 14, 2016

    Good piece Nisha. I'm a distinguished Toastmaster having been in the organisation for 14 years total. I joined because a manager suggested I spoke too quickly (200-300 wpm), and that Toastmasters could guide me in slowing down. Well, I did slow down, and learned many techniques through regular attendance and practice. I now speak at around 100-150 wpm, enter contests, serve as a club officer, and have served as Area and Division Governor. I'm a REP Ambassador, and enjoy all that Toastmasters has to offer. I get what I give, and what I think about I bring about. Toastmasters changed my life and I kept the change. Thank you for your article.

  • David Hughes
    January 14, 2016

    Good piece Nisha. I'm a distinguished Toastmaster having been in the organisation for 14 years total. I joined because a manager suggested I spoke too quickly (200-300 wpm), and that Toastmasters could guide me in slowing down. Well, I did slow down, and learned many techniques through regular attendance and practice. I now speak at around 100-150 wpm, enter contests, serve as a club officer, and have served as Area and Division Governor. I'm a REP Ambassador, and enjoy all that Toastmasters has to offer. I get what I give, and what I think about I bring about. Toastmasters changed my life and I kept the change. Thank you for your article.

  • VIPINGEORGES
    January 14, 2016

    Soumya!Good morning ???? Y don't you walk in as a guest to Dreams toastmasters..we have a women empowerment policy in place ????

  • varun mishra
    January 15, 2016

    Good piece Nisha. I'm a distinguished

  • Vishal Kataria
    January 15, 2016

    If you believe you need to develop yourself and you have taken that first step, you might as well go the whole yard.

    I loved this line Nisha. Often people dream of achieving something but take no action. In fact, they try to pull others down too…

    It's nice to see that you followed your heart and mastered the art of public speaking. Whatever anyone says, communicating well verbally and in written are the most powerful skills someone can possess, regardless of the profession.

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 15, 2016

    Thank you. Glad a DTM agrees with me.

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 15, 2016

    Thank you. Indeed, as you say, it's a powerful skill

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 15, 2016

    Thank you. Indeed, as you say, it's a powerful skill

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 15, 2016

    Thanks VP

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 15, 2016

    Thanks VP

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    January 15, 2016

    Thank you. Glad a DTM agrees with me.

  • Kala Ravi
    January 18, 2016

    I loved the idea of the Toastmaster's public-speaking. I guess anyone interested in getting their voice/viewpoints heard should go for this! Indeed grown-ups need to grow-up someday and learn to fight their own battles and challenges. And if you have the confidence, the gift of the gab and eloquent articulation on your side, all the better!

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