Compliments? Yes please, with salt!


September 6, 2014
I was wary of compliments, especially from friends. I would blush, mumble a thank you and quickly get far away from the person. Personally, I preferred long-distance compliments, because I found it a lot easier to let the voice break over the phone and pretend not to have heard it right.
Until I heard one of them last year…
After that, whenever I am given a compliment, I smile and note it down mentally.  I’ve learnt to take it with a sack full of salt. Now I just blow them away. If they still float around, I observe for sometime longer and invariably it has always gone back as chips on its owners’ shoulders.
For instance, I have one friend who drools eloquent on what I serve her. Later she advices me on how easy it is go beyond the basic three-course meal.
There are a couple of them who cannot stop exclaiming about the décor of my home and how neatly I maintain my house. One of them later said, I need to cleanse it for proper chi. “I sense unwanted elements”.
One of them said she ‘envies’ my slender frame. Later, she said I lack core strength. At this age, building core strength is more important than being thin…
Our thoughts are, indeed, powerful. I shouldn’t have been wary of them to begin with, I guess.

Here’s the first instance that shook my antennas last year…  http://bit.ly/Wu8phy

Nisha Sanjeev

6 Comments

  • Ruchi Singh
    September 6, 2014

    Oh I really enjoyed your post. This is so true of many people, specially those who are veru eloquent and ready to pay comliments 🙂 Best part is that they don't even realize they have contradicted themselves!!

  • Lorraine Taylor
    September 7, 2014

    Nice reminder. A smile and a thank you is a perfect ending to a thoughtful compliment.

  • shellymona
    September 7, 2014

    True…
    but real compliments have complete honesty in them…nice post!

  • Cathy Graham
    September 7, 2014

    Don't you hate those false types who compliment you one minute and criticize the next? Grrrr! That's why when someone gives me a genuine heartfelt compliment I accept it with gratitude and hang onto that warm glow as long as I can. I used to downplay a compliment and dismiss it but now I accept it and appreciate it. Thanks so much, I say and enjoy the moment as they don't come all that often.

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    September 7, 2014

    I find it funny now, Ruchi!

  • Nisha Sanjeev
    September 7, 2014

    Thank You Lorraine; Shellymona, Cathy…Agree with you all on how honest heart-felt compliments uplift you.

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